The way the world treats us is greatly influenced
by the way we see ourselves.
When
our feelings about ourselves are positive, we show
others that we like and value ourselves – and
then others tend to treat us well. But when we have
negative feelings about ourselves, we are too critical,
complaining and pessimistic; others tend to take this
attitude towards us as well. How we treat ourselves
helps determine how others will likely treat us.
The thoughts we have about ourselves, and how we define
ourselves, contribute to our self-image. The feelings
we have about these thoughts, whether these feeling
are good or bad, are the building blocks of our self-esteem.
Many of us are wounded, in one way or another; by
the way we were treated as we grew up. As adults
it becomes our responsibility to put closure on the
damage inflicted on us by others and to move on with
our lives in a healthy way.
We have the ability to change our negative self-esteem
tendencies and to replace them with self-nurturing,
self-encouraging, and self-enhancing behavior. When
we begin to treat ourselves in a positive way, others
pick up on our cues and respond to us in the special
way we all deserve.
Techniques for creating positive self-esteem
1. Examine your unrealistic expectations
2. Accept the fact that history cannot be changed
3. Reflect on the good experiences in your life
4. Set positive goals for the future
As a personal and professional development coach,
I help my clients to achieve a more satisfying and
productive relationship with themselves and others.
Seeking
help is a sign of courage and willingness to deal
with life’s many changes.
I can help you.
Warmly,
Moty Koppes, M.A., PCC
Personal/Professional Development Coach
"Never limit yourself
because of others' limited imagination; never limit
others because of your own
limited imagination."
