Who's in Charge?

noreply@blogger.com (Moty Koppes) — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 21:15:00 +0000

These days everybody seems stressed out. Just listen, and you will hear discussions on how stress affects people as they try to move through their lives. People complain about stress, joke about it, use it as an excuse for their mistakes, and most of all, they worry about what it is doing to them, both physically and emotionally.

In my opinion joy in living does not come from managing our stress or misery. It comes from a rekindling of our spirit - rediscovering a passion for living, loving and working. More importantly, I believe that only those who realize that they, and not the events in their lives, have the power can actually take charge of themselves and therefore, rekindle their spirits. It does not matter whether they define the source of that power in religious or psychological or emotional terms. They have to see that the power in them.
I believe we must look at what we are bringing to life, and not just what life is offering us. We must examine what our beliefs are and how they translate our daily lives.
We must challenge everything we believe - not necessarily change it - but challenge it. everything worth believing is worth challenging, if we just change our behaviors and not our thinking processes and beliefs, the new behaviors probably will not last.
as Socrates said, " The life unexamined is not worth living."
Unfortunately, many of us do not examine life in the way he meant. We just bitch about it.
If you are in a bad place, get help.Find a good coach. Please do not deal with your trouble alone.

Coaching from Inside out

noreply@blogger.com (Moty Koppes) — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 21:31:00 +0000

When coaching clients want to make some life changes, they are more apt to respond to questions and conversations about purpose, calling or meaning.

I have found that much of my coaching soon gets into a life purpose discussion. And that clients who get more clarity about their purpose and unique calling, then make decisions and choices that fit with that new understanding.

As a rule, people are taught how to examine their own lives through the lens of fulfillment.

I ask my clients to probe deeply into their lives – their values, priorities, goals and obstacles to fulfillment.

What is life purpose?

Pat Williams, author of "Becoming a Professional Life Coach", says each of us looks for fulfillment and authentic happiness in our own way. Sometimes the yearning for fulfillment becomes a call so loud and so intense at midlife that we cannot help but step off the path we are on and devote ourselves to the search for fulfillment. As many midlife questions discover, fulfillment often means returning to deep sources of satisfaction that we may have had glimpses of many years ago. At that earlier time, we may have lacked the courage to follow the call, or we may have allowed life stress and serious pursuits to cover up the glimmer of what we know to be true.

This pattern takes place in the lives of so many people because each of us has a life purpose that has, we believe, been with us since we were very young. At moments when we experienced a profound sense of being in the flow – being in the right place, at the right time, using our gifts – we are likely to be living out our life purpose. Life purpose calls us forth. It may be a calling we answer, something larger than our small selves, that deeply connect us with others, with is larger than ourselves.

Many people in the United States and throughout the industrialized nations misguidedly believe that the only way to have what we want is to work hard and long.

There is an alternative: BE who you are first. When you focus on being first, this let you DO what you want to do, which lets you Have what you need. We need to allow ourselves to BE first; the rest will follow. Discovering our life purpose focuses our attention on the essence of who we are – our Be – ing. As some wise person said, if we are designed to be human do-ings, we would have been called that.

Coaching from the Inside Out

Who's in Charge?

Coaching from Inside out